..or just perhaps an understanding ear.

I have been running a pub with my partner for the last 2 years. Although we split up just over a year ago, we have still been living and working together which was ok. He has now decided that he has had enough and is moving on. Fair enough I say, as I can easily manage the pub and in some respects it will be easier without him around. We have just told our managing director about what we plan to do (his moving out, me staying and taking on the running of the buisness) and now it seems as though there a lot of complications with it.

Firstly, we were on a joint contract. Meaning that as he has now handed in his notice, I effectively have as well. I now have to re-apply for my job with no guaratee that I will keep it.
Not only am I devastated about losing my best friend, I could lose my house and my job along with everything I have worked so hard to achieve. We have turned the buisness around after a long succession of useless managers and temporary staff, created an interesting menu and generally things are on the up.

One of my DM's main concerns is my age (21) and I think he feels that because I am a young female I have been more following than leading in our shared job which is not true. Obviously he can't see the day to day running of the buisness or the amount of work & organisation that I do compared to my ex (who only works 5 days a week because of his kids)

I feel that, although it will be more work, I am more than capable of taking this on and also very willing. I now have a month to 'prove my worth' as he so nicely put it and have to present my case for keeping my job in front of everyone on Monday.
I so shocked and upset and on top of that I could lose everything.

At the end of all that, I am not so sure what I need advice about but thanks for reading, it feels better to get it out in the open so to speak, as it has to be kept quiet over this way.

No advice for you , just go for it and prove yourself !!!

State what you've just written above, more than shows that you are capable and good luck for the future.

> he feels that because I am a young female I have been more following than leading in our shared job which is not true. Obviously he can't see the day to day running of the buisness or the amount of work & organisation that I do compared to my ex

What a horrible situation to get dumped into.
Could you get statements/letters of support from staff/suppliers/delivery people to say more of who did what and how much you - as opposed to your partner- actually did.

> it has to be kept quiet over this way.

presumably that is quiet from customers not staff etc, you could ask them to keep it confidential.

Chris

I'm sorry to hear of your Situation at the moment and can totally understand how worrying it must be for you ,
I've worked in pubs for many years now and in one city pub I was working the land lady was in her  mid twenty's  and a single mum ,
She turned the pub from a run down nothing into a great success  , served Tai food at lunch time for the office workers , had lots of different things going on in the evenings for the punters and the place was always busy.
This was a few years ago now but the young women did really great and they ended up moving her on to run  Quite a fancy pub in the heart of the city where they only opened Monday to Friday (due to  it being  in the Ec area)  and she still runs it today and it's a great success,

Have faith in yourself (which it sounds like you have) and stay strong  and be positive you know you can do it, you must make them know that also, which I am sure you will,
I wish you all the best and hope everything all works out for you, (((((HUGS)))))

Sometimes it it clearer when written in front of you, to see a situation.
It looks to me as if you know what you are doing, you have to use this month to great effect. Certainly seems unfair but you can do it!

Karen

Thank you for your replies.

I think I have just worked myself into a horrible panic and am just talking myself into thinking that everyone is going to pick holes in what I already see as faults, if that makes any sense at all lol.
I am keeping it quiet because our regular customers are awful gossips and I don't think I can face the questions etc. Not just yet anyway. I feel so torn. Half of me is very excited to have such an opportunity but the other half is panicking and getting really worked up over the smallest things! My mood swings are even worse than usual.
So if all goes to plan, its just going to be me and Mason. And he is all I need!

Thank you for your encouragement, its quite a lonely place (strange, I know. Lonely but constantly surrounded by people) so just being able to 'say' it is a huge relief

our regular customers are awful gossips

sorry i had a little giggle at this,

sounds like your running a typical local then, ,

brings back so many memories of my days hearing all the gossip from that side of the bar shocking stuff some of it , always made me glad not to be one of the locals lol

but we always used to say , while people were talking about you they were leaving someone else alone,

our regular customers are awful gossips

The joys of working behind the bar, I loved being a barmaid!!lol

Just a quick update...

I got my job Lots of hard work to come!

Thank you all again

Vikki

Yaaaay! Well done and congratulations, what a relief for you!

Congratulations!

So very, very pleased for you.

You deserve it.

Congratulations.   

That's fantastic news, good for you. They must have liked what they saw, this must have done your self confidence the world of good!!
You go girl!!!

Congratulations

Woop Woop!!! Well done you ,
I drove past an old pub i used to work in yesterday and thought of you was wondering how you got on, aint that funny,
Im very pleased for you  all the best of luck to you xx

Wow! So pleased for you. Well done you. Good luck!

****Congratulations****
Karen

Well done my friend go for it, but as they said its a lot of hard work!