Jackie don't be so hard on yourself, I love your postings and replies. I agree there have been a lot of unpleasnt repsonses at times, but we all get over them and ignor them. Your very knowlegable and its a shame you can't meet the Peterborough Champdogs soon. I know you wont leave though I can understand the feeling of wanting too, I can understand that. You have lots of muckers who very much like your advise and support!! Me including!! Julieann

I don't care if my postings gets an unpleasent or even vile reply, what upsets me is I don't know when I make a reply, if the poster really wanted a reply or are sitting there grinning to see which sucker will fall into their trap. If I reply to a post, I hope it may either help or make the poster think if they should do what they are proposing. If poster wish to ignore or challenge my view, thats fine, but when I find that the original post is not a genuine person, but someone looking for trouble, It makes me feel I will not ever answer a post from a newcomer again. And I feel like this even though I have researched into the sort of people who behave like this and know what causes them to behave like this and the probable reason for the way they behave. I still find it very corosive.
Jackie

Exactly how I feel Jackie x

Jackie, I do understand how you are feeling, and it is not nice when we get the idots posting to course trouble and we think they want our advise only to find this out?

Julieann

"what upsets me is I don't know when I make a reply, if the poster really wanted a reply or are sitting there grinning to see which sucker will fall into their trap. "

As everyone else has said - don't go! We'll miss ya.

If the original poster is just trying to stir up trouble, at least other people are being made aware of any potential problems they may come across. I admit, it gets tedious when we get the same questions but even from the ridiculous questions, I have learnt snippits of information.

Helen

"I hate the idea that people can change the way I look at other peoples motives"

"I don't know ... if the poster really wanted a reply or are sitting there grinning to see which sucker will fall into their trap... It makes me feel I will not ever answer a post from a newcomer again"

I feel exactly the same way Jackie .

Because you are posting on a public board, it isn't just the one person reading what you have to say, it is anyone interested in the answer and so it is always worth saying what you have to say After all, if the original poster is sitting at home grinning with glee at all the trouble they have caused, then they are a little s**t with no friends and nothing better to do with their time.

So please, not only stay, but keep saying it like it is - if you make one genuine person reconsider doing something that wouldn't have been for the best, then you have done more good than many of us can say we have done.

Hi Jackie how are you feeling today? Hope your OK. Julieann xx

Thanks, yes I'm fine, but I am unable to control how I have been affected inside but I'm going to fight like hell not to be affected by the events of late. I'll keep on trying, I really will. No I'm not going to let mindless people effect my concern for those who wish to chat and discuss. I am very moved by those of you who are concerned for me, please don't be, I'm fine.
Ja:)kie

Hi Jackie,

I have been avoiding some of the post recently just to keep my nose clean.

You like I, come here for a bit of fun and to try and get and give helpful advice and you don't certainly want nor need to switch off your PC then have upset on your mind.

I and alot of others will know exactly how you feel. You start questioning your behaviour which shows the good in you. You, like I ,can be direct but not a nasty bone in your body which makes you different from some who can be sneaky. ( Before anyone asks I can't think of anyone right now but you will get my drift)

Can't remember how long I have been on the board but I can honestly and directly say that I have found your posts and answers to be fair, helpful and about the animals and without and personal nastiness.

When you question or disagree I have always thought it was for the right reason and always genuine.

You have been on the board a long time I believe, so it is OK to let off steam sometimes.

Hope I have not offended you with the comments as they are all ment as a compliment.

BFN

Pam