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By pamela Reidie Date 26.11.02 13:06 GMT
The year is 2012 and the United States of America
has recently elected the first woman as well as the first Jewish president
a Susan Goldfarb.
She calls up her mother a few weeks after election day and says,
"So Mom, I assume you will be coming to my inauguration?"
"I don't think so. It's a ten hour drive, your father isn't as young as he used to be,
and my gout is acting up again"
"Don't worry about it Mom, I'll send Air Force One to pick you up and take you home.
and a limousine will pick you up at your door."
"I don't know. Everybody will be so fancy-schmantzy, what on earth would I wear?"
"Oh Mom" replies Susan, "I'll make sure you have a wonderful gown by
Christian Dior."
"Honey", Mom complains, "you know I can't eat those rich foods you and your friends
like to eat"
The President-to-be responds, "Don't worry Mom
The entire affair is going to be handled by the best caterer in New York,
kosher all the way. Mom I really want you to come".
So Mom reluctantly agrees and on January 21, 2013, Susan Goldfarb is being sworn in
as President of the United States of America.
In the front row sits the new presidents mother, who leans over to a senator sitting next
to her.
" You see that woman over ther with her hand on the bible, becoming President of the
United States?
The Senator whispers back," Yes I do"
Says Mom proudly, "Her brother's a doctor."
By eoghania [de] Date 26.11.02 13:10 GMT
Very humourous, Pamela,
That made me laugh :D :D :D
I can easily imagine my stepmother-in-law doing that to my young sis-in-law !!!!! I'm always holding my tongue on the rare times we visit.... I just don't get it. Hubby explains it by saying, "Well, it's certain that SHE won't grow up to be THE Messiah, but her brother might." :rolleyes: :P :D
:cool:
By gina (***) [gb] Date 26.11.02 20:13 GMT
I like it :D
Gina
By pamela Reidie [gb] Date 26.11.02 20:59 GMT
Toodles,

This is my mother to a "T" Please don't take this as boasting but I feel have done quite well and built a few house, did a Degree and a Masters. I am not rich but done OK but worked my butt of to get there.

My mother never ever acknowledges anything I have done.

There is more excitement when my brother gets a speeding ticket, or gets his but of his chair and paints his hall. LOL

I am thick skinned now I guess. :-)

Pam
By eoghania [de] Date 27.11.02 10:38 GMT
Don't feel bad Pam. I wouldn't believe it unless I had seen it in action myself. My S.M-i-l will go on for hours about the problems/accolades she has with my b-in-law. He revels in the attention --good and bad. I remember one time when sis interuppted a rant to tell me that she got straight A's in the latest grades.
Her Mum's response.... "You're doing JUST fine and everyone knows that, so keep it to yourself. No one likes a big head."
Honestly, the girl was only 8 at the time. (sigh). Hubby says it's very common in the region he grew up in for this to occur. :-( (Hey, I thought it was a big deal, I never got straight A's until College :P )
So sis has become a Jock to combat this massive disinterest. She's great at sports. I do love my father-in-law..he gives her the attn. she needs/requires. I just can't figure my S/m -in-law out confused
cool
By Sharon McCrea [gb] Date 27.11.02 13:14 GMT
I thought it was only Irish mothers :-(. I love my mum to bits but there were more celebrations when my brother failed exams than when I got the straight 'A's. I used to grind away layers of tooth enamel at comments to him like "you worked very hard dear" (he was as lazy as sin!), "you had bad luck with the questions pet", "its the teacher's/examiner's fault", "never mind, you almost passed" or best of all "your sister is just good at exams" (I was good at exams, but I also worked my unmentionables off!) Now I just think its sad, because having a mother who excuses everything and accepts every excuse does her son no favours.
By issysmum [gb] Date 27.11.02 14:43 GMT
My Irish mother has given my brother over £35K to pay off his debts, this is despite both my parents being retired, yet she berudges lending me £50 when the cashpoint swallows my card, I'm up to the limit on my Credit Cards and Issy needs new shoes mad Apparantly it's my fault Issy needs new shoes - she threw one in the bin and I didn't notice!! yet my brothers financial worries are all down to circumstance (he got made redundant and had a failed business so it can't possibly be his fault :-()Sorry, rant over now :-)

I'd never ask for the same money my brother asks for, I'm just looking for fair play between the three of us.

Fiona
x x x
By Karen.T (**) [gb] Date 27.11.02 15:03 GMT
When I was growing up my Brother was the favorite yet he was the one that got in trouble with the police took drugs etc yet he was still number one my Mum also became very ill and Brother was a right sod stealing money from her purse etc but he was still the favorite.
I got on with my Mum but we clashed big time in October 2000 she died aged 52 and even so I was not the favorite child I would give anything to have her back..

Karen
By Melodysk (Moderator) [gb] Date 27.11.02 11:32 GMT
Well as a mother to 3 WONDERFUL boys ......oh yes and 2 daughters as well ...I cannot see what the problem is at all

:D

Only joking Lucy and Sophie :-)

Mothers and sons , Fathers and daughters ..tis the way of the world

Melody - who admires ALL her kids equally
Now a 6th Form Adminstrator and still mum to 2 Mad Mallies
By pamela Reidie Date 27.11.02 12:53 GMT
Nice one Melody :-)

Pam

I don't mind at all about my mother as she is so good to my daughter. I am very very close to my dad and I think that is the problem. My mother is a bit jealous. Sometimes when I call my parents house and ask for my dad I hear my mother shout to my dad, " It is YOUR daughter" When I challenge her about it she says " awk don't be daft".

LOL I just ignore it.
By eoghania [de] Date 27.11.02 13:43 GMT
I'm close to both of my parents :-) Sure there are things I can talk better with one parent than the other. But I've always tried to be even with the two of them. I've felt I had to make up for my brother :-(

Even though we don't visit for years, we are quite happy with my phone calls home :D When mom started having problems with her heart almost 2 years ago, I made a comittment to call her every Sunday morning and talk with her. (I could keep an eye on her that way --she's the queen of de-nile ;-) )
When I first lived overseas, she would get upset with me about the costs -- 14 or so years ago, it was very expensive :-( That's why I'd call about once a month. Now phone costs are around 3 cents a minute...and she has no choice :D :D
My dad tells me that she looks forward to them and we usually talk for a long time about 'stuff' (Horses and dogs---a nice neutral subject :D :D ;-) ). It gets really fun when Dad's on the second phone :D :D
But I think I know more about them both communicating this way than if I lived nearby :rolleyes: :-) So I'm a proud 'Daddy's girl'...but I also very much am a 'Mother's daughter.' I love both of those roles :-) :D It's taken a lot of work over the years, but I think everyone is happy with the status quo.
As for hubby.....well, he's more my parents' child, than I am :rolleyes: :P :D It's very scary at times eek
cool
By taffyparker [gb] Date 27.11.02 12:14 GMT
How true is that!:-) I am very big on manners,common courtesey etc and all my previous boyfriends mothers loved me, but dear lord the in laws I have now confused I'm looking into adoption possibilities to see if someone else would like them. When I met my husband (her son),I only egged him on for shock value,he had a terrible reputation,women/booze/women (you get the picture?). They were so proud of the number of women caught in their bed,women calling the house, his drunken antics. They were horrified when he "settled" and even though he's hugely successful and much happier now....his mother remains blind to it.She's never said she was happy for him or that she's proud of him.All she has said is that when he slips up, she'll be the woman to forgive him because he's her baby.urgh!
When I think of the potential mother in law I could've had I could cry..she was lovely,shame about the son :-)
Julie
By Julieann [gb] Date 27.11.02 15:13 GMT
I have been up and down with my mum since I was born. Long story tried to make a short one!

Was born mum could not bond with me, I always went to my dad for everything. Brother was born she had no problems with him he could do no wrong (6 years between us). Still close to dad hardly did anything with mum. Had all sorts of problems at school had to deal with them on my own. Now fell out with dad could not wait to go out to get away from them! Hardly saw dad always at work always falling out with mum. Mum and dad broke up he ran off with his secretary. (after 30 years!) I did not talk to my dad for a few years as mum got very ill and we finally bonded together and I found my mum. Spent three very happy but moving years together. Dad due to get married soon, am now talking and things are fine. Mum got a new chap nice man, I no longer exsiste! Well that what it feelings like! :-( God that sounds awfall of course I want my mum happy and she is, but, to find her then feel like I have lost her hurts. Oh well there you go. :-( Julieann xxxx
By Snorri [gb] Date 27.11.02 16:24 GMT
Other way round for me! Not only could my Mum not see past her girls, she incarcerated me in a boarding school to get me out of the way (and the fact that it enhanced her social standing with the local pooh-bahs was just icing on the cake)!

Still, all water under the bridge - she has had a couple of strokes and doesn't even remember who we are now, so there's no point in holding a grudge, is there? :-(
By pamela Reidie [gb] Date 27.11.02 19:05 GMT
I am sorry all if I started something with that joke..if it makes you all feel better what you have experienced makes you who you are today :-)

Pam
By Christine (***) Date 27.11.02 23:14 GMT
Funny enough Pam, my mum, me & my niece who is only 5 yrs younger than me who we havn`t seen for 11yrs, got together last wk & had a chat about how things have changed regarding upbringing of kids these days. Last words I said when we were together was "Mum,, Lorraine, what I am now is what I experienced & made me all the stronger for it, thank you mum so much for everything you did, because without you I wouldn`t be what I am now.
Christine, Spain.
By mari [ie] Date 28.11.02 21:20 GMT
I have three sons love them to bits and yes they do charm the money clean out of my pocket .
I have two girls sharon and Lorraine the lights of my life my friends and they are the best in the world.
I still dont have a favourite though , I like one better then the other at different times for different reasons does that make sense at all . eek
My mother was very fair when raising us and we never felt she loved one more then the other, if she did then we never knew it.
I will never forget her when my younger brother was drowned 30yrs ago . she was sooo destroyed, I remember someone saying to her , oh god your youngest boy and all . She said I love them all and if I had been given a choice which one should die how could I choose.So she said it is as well we dont have choices.
love her.
So I guess if all the moms who favour their sons a bit more had a choice I doubt they could choose either .
just my twopennorth worth
Mari
By Melodysk (Moderator) [gb] Date 29.11.02 08:33 GMT
As I said earlier , I have 3 boys and 2 gilrs , they are ..Daughter 27 , Son 26 , son 21 , daughter 12 and son 9. In my experience I have found it much easier to relate to the boys until they reach the age of about 15...with the oldest (gilr) it was the exact opposite ..I couldnt relate to her at all until she left home ..now we get on like a house on fire!

It is odd really ..I was subject to the mum + sons things as I was an only child until my brother was born when I was 6 ...from then on I felt very ignored in my family ..I became very fat and very unhappy. My mother desperately wanted sons as she had 4 sisters.

Luckily I get on okay with both of my younger two ..maybe a case of me having more experience? I now get on with all my children and I think the same of the whole lot :-)

Melody
Now a 6th Form Adminstrator and still mum to 2 Mad Mallies
By Sharon McCrea [gb] Date 29.11.02 08:49 GMT
Mel, Mari and other mums, do any of you admit to having favourites? The one thing that drives me dotty and still does is that my mum won't admit that my brother is the favourite. This despite various aunts telling her over the years that it was as obvious as Pinocchio's nose. I know that she loves us equally, but she desperaely wanted a son (and another child of any sex). Anyway brother is more like her - well, his hard to find 'good' side is - so she has always favoured him. I understand that and don't mind at all but I just wish that she'd d@mn' well admit it.
By Melodysk (Moderator) [gb] Date 29.11.02 09:04 GMT
I dont have a favourite but I get on better with Luke (26 year old) than any of the others ...we are just very , VERY alike , so I know what he is thinking etc. I wouldnt give Luke things over and above the others ..or trust him more or ..well , or anything ..I simply understand him better.

I spoke to my oldest daughter about this as she was upset and thought he was my favourite ..but I dont think she will understand what I mean until she has 2 children ..she has one , my lovely Grandson Ben :-) The down side though , for Luke , is that I can get crosser with him than with the others ...swings and roundabouts really.

So no , I wouldnt *admit* to Luke being my favourite , he isn't , we just get on better than the others ;-)

Mel
Now a 6th Form Adminstrator and still mum to 2 Mad Mallies
By muddydogs [gb] Date 29.11.02 14:20 GMT
Hi, I've now got two boys, aged 5 and 8, and when I first had Harry ,the eldest, I wasn't sure I wanted any more children because I loved him sooooo much, I was scared I wouldn't love another child the same eek well I have Alfie as well now, and love him to bits too, my boys are chalk and cheese, you couldn't meet two more different children, I love them both the same, and also love them differently too (confusing eh?) I always thought , (my sisters did too), that my Mum loved my brother more than us, as adults you see things differently and what at the time was sibling jealousy was actually quite founded eek My mum only has contact with my brother now, and us girls have nothing to do with her! but that another story - anyway back to my boys, I love Harry for being my son and being my first born and everything else about him - I love Alfie for being my son and being my last born and everything else about him too, it is absolutely equal - Harry has asked me before if I love Alfie more than him, because alfie gets away with more - I had to explain that I love them the same and equally but have to treat them as individuals too, and what works for Harry doesn't necessarily work for little alf, I cherish Alfie and do spoil him a bit, but I think that's because we lost George, therefore I see him as a gift, he is a little Angel - so very, very naughty but still my little Angel. Harry is studious, and sensible and sensitive, and I have to honestly say I do not have a favourite ! so there! Julie:)
By n allen-smith [gb] Date 29.11.02 16:08 GMT
It's funny, after I had my first child Daisy I knew I wanted another, but it was'nt until I was pregnant that I started hopeing that it would be another girl. I have a sister, and we get on so well that I wanted Daisy to have a similar relationship. Plus I'd always thought that girls will always be yours but somehow when boys get older and find girlfriends, wives etc. that you sort of loose them. Of course, the baby was a boy:D-Toby who is lovely, and I love them them equally, but in different ways. Only time will tell how our relationship goes, but I somehow feel that I will always relate to Daisy better because I understand being a girl!!
Nic:)
By mari [ie] Date 29.11.02 19:33 GMT
No Sharon I truly do not have a favourite.
I cant see how anyone could , I mean they are all different in their own way . I loved them to bits when little thats the best time .When they are all with you and you know where they are.
I have had as many bad times as anyone with rebellious teenagers and pms girls and hothead sons and confrontations . thats across the board ,then all of a sudden they were adults.
Gerald my first born when I was 17 yrs old is now 34, then Sharon who is 32 and Lorraine who is 30 and neil 26 and Keith 20 . I can hand on heart say they are all the same to me. I enjoyed each little child and I got as much pleasure from one as the other. The last one is like a boomerang , no getting rid no matter how far I throw lol :D.
When Sharon was at the airport with me I got a call from him asking where was his swim trunks :-)
When mine were reared I went back to night school .
I had a good time at that as well
Mari
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