TTS being a hardworking husband does NOT make him a bad one, he's a big boy and a successful MAN, don't bother yourself feeling sorry for him. Have any babies do you???????????? as a mother of young children, they are my priority. WHATS YOURS????????????????

Whoopeeee WELL SAID xxx

hes a bad dog owner though "guilty",hes not responsible enough to own one,

any new puupy owner would WANT to take time off work,cant imagine anyone waiting all their life for a pup & then missing its puppyhood. most odd

guilty did you expext your hubby to be more involved?

what! OMG TTS i cant believe youve just said that!!!!!!!

what kind of **** r u? tts

guilty your hubby aint called thomas is he?

LOL @ michelled :D :D :D

ITS ALL GOTTEN RATHER PERSONAL HASN'T IT?  BUT I HAVE APPRECIATED THE SUPPORT OF JUST ABOUT EVERYONE, TTS EXCLUDED, NATURALLY.  GONE ALL QUIET NOW HASN'T SHE.  ANYWAY THANK YOU SO MUCH, I'LL HOPEFULLY BE BACK WITH A BETTER FRAME OF MIND. LOVE TO YOU AND ALL

You've got lots of friends on here if you want / need them   Good luck to you - and remember, spend, spend, spend!

Take care, Teri 

You sound a real gem Teri, thanks. 

You mention that hubby has his own business, what was there to prevent him taking the much wanted pup to work with him? 

He could have taken the time to take it out every hour for a wee etc and done training in his lunch hour????

I expect as you are the one that looks after the children (which he can show off but doesn't have the inconvenience of at work, he thought the dog would work the same way.

His answer is probably that he couldn't ahve spred the time during his working day.  Well you are also doing a full time job looking after children and home.

LOL - I can just imagine my husband taking a puppy to work with him :D It just depends on the type of work - but in most offices it would just not be acceptable to most members of staff having a puppy there. Not all people like dogs, particularly in a work environment - ~I wouldn't be best pleased if my boss bought a pup into the office

Daisy

The business is his and therefore if he wanted to take dog to work he would but he is in and out to meetings ALL the time.  He would have loved the dog at work but knew he could not take a puppy.  Guess we should have had a more in depth talk about the "raising and training" of a puppy before the damage was done.  Thanks though brainless, you have been so kind too.

Don't worry you learn to put the extra thick skin on at times we don't all always agree just humans I guess.   BTW we are just having a bit of fun about hubby I do hope you can sort it all out as I know you have family etc

Good luck,  Pam

Thanks Blue, your so right. 

Guilty please don't feel so bad....your hubby will come round

well he assumed wrong! his mother had the measure of him!!!!!
youll be ok,he will get over it. you fdid the right thing.chin up! you sound like a tuff chick,youll be fine!!!!!!!

I think if it had been me in your sitution guilty I'd have defo pulled a sickie for a week or so, then your Husband would have had to take part.

Errmmm I dont think its you who should be making anything up to him! I think its the other way around. How dare anyone treat you this way because they are throwing a paddy. Ok so you made a mistake which affected him but he should never have pressured you in the first place. I understand how this feels as I went through something similar with my husband.

Best of luck

men huh!!!!!
guilty,if there is one thing we can teach you on here.....puppies & dogs are WAY better than men!!!! (gosh when did i become a cynical 30yrold!!) 

LOL Michelle

FWIW i think you did the right thing. Had you kept the dog just to please your husband you would probably have ended up resenting both the dog and husband, and thats not a nice place to be. With a dog like a viszla, you would have needed to work quite hard at the training to get a well behaved dog, as it is primarily a very active working breed, and perhaps not the best first time dog for you and you may have ended up with a problem dog, making this much worse for you.
Yes hes disappointed, but what good is a dog if he isn't going to be there to walk it, train it, play with it etc? I personally would love a horse, but i know that i just don't have the time, money or experience to own one at the moment, no matter how beautiful they are. I think he needs to grow up a little and live in the real world. He really should be more concerned about you and your two children. You have enough on your plate with HIS 2 young children. Forgive me, i don't know you both personally but it doesn't sound as if he has doesn't have enough time for his children let alone a dog. Don't feel guilty, everyone makes mistakes, but there is no point making yourself miserable just because he wants a dog to curl up at his feet at night.
Michelle, i'm with you there, thats why i have 3 dogs and am single!!

>Michelle, i'm with you there, thats why i have 3 dogs and am single!!<

Likewise! Dogs are heaps better, only wish they filled the bank account instead of constantly emptying it! lol

'Guilty' - NOT!

If you keep trying to make it up to your husband or apologising for something that really isn't your fault, then you are agreeing with him that you're in the wrong - and you aren't   You did what any responsible, caring person would do, and shouldn't be criticised for it.

IMHO He is behaving like a child, wanting to have something, but not willing to make adjustments in his life to accomodate it and expecting someone else to take the responsibiliity for it    If he had really, truly wanted a dog and all that owning a dog entails as much as he claims, he would have made adjustments in his life already to accomodate one, the fact is that he didn't and he has only himself to blame.  Please don't beat yourself up any more.

Just got to add that having been very moved by this thread and your predicament I gave my OH a summary of what's happened. His immediate comment was "She should have given the husband back to his breeder"!! And that's a male perspective of the situation!!

Thank you Roz, I am feeling so much better today as I REALISE now I did absolutley the right thing.  I have asked the children a couple of times since the pup has gone how they feel and they have individually told me it is better.  My 10yr old said yes, she also made a mistake and it wasnt what she expected.  At 10yrs old how could she possibly have been so clear cut about the reality of having a puppy.  I guess at the end of the day myself, my husband and my daughter all made a mistake in our various ways and judgements and al lot of pain has been caused but we have to move on.  The puppy I know will undoubtedly have a good life elsewhere which leaves me time to concentrate on what I already have. Amazing children!  It sounds as though you have a very sensitive and understanding hubby you are very lucky. Love Guilty